The argument started over cranberry stuffing.

It was Thanksgiving in Ohio, at my husband Daniel’s parents’ house. Their walls were covered with framed family photos, and everyone spoke so loudly that every conversation sounded like a competition.

All morning, I had been chasing our three-year-old son, Noah, away from glass decorations, hot dishes, and his grandfather’s antique knife collection locked in a cabinet that everyone else seemed to think was normal.