The funeral of Nana Rose was less a mourning of a beloved matriarch and more a runway show for my mother’s vanity.

The rain fell in a steady, miserable drizzle over the cemetery, turning the earth into slick mud. I stood at the back of the small crowd, sheltered under a plain black umbrella, wearing a simple wool coat I’d bought off the rack years ago. I watched my mother, Linda, in the front row. She was draped in a black fur coat that cost more than my first car, dabbing at dry eyes with a lace handkerchief, checking peripherally to see if the local socialites were watching her performance.